I wrote an article this week which was published in a large online magazine called Publishious. It was also curated and chosen for distribution by the editors over at Medium.com…so I think it’s safe to say — people need this message.
IT IS OK TO BE SINGLE.
IN FACT, IT’S OK TO BE HAPPY BEING SINGLE.
There. It feels good to just say that out loud — against the messaging I (and many women) have been taught.
That — somehow I was born half a person. I’ve been put here to make men happy and procreate. That my life should be about this search for the one true love that’s out there on some horizon waiting for me. That somehow, I am incomplete without a man to escort me places, or make decisions for me, or teach me how to think or act or talk.
I call bullshit. While being in a relationship is a beautiful thing —it’s not everything.
And, it’s not everything for anyone — women or men. If we can’t be happy alone then what do we have to offer one another anyway?
What if I am happily single? Is this ok? YES! Be happily single! Right now! You don’t need anyone’s permission for it!
(With all that women are going through right now — maybe we need to be reminded that our lives mean something more than “completing another person.”)
For Those of You Who Need to Hear it: Being Single Is OK: Don’t let singlehood feel like a disability.
I hope this piece is just what you needed today. Or a friend — send it over to someone you love who needs to hear this right now. I’m sure they’ll appreciate you thinking of them.
And one last thought. If you work in the food service industry, can you stop asking “Will you be dining alone?” with that pitiful look on your face? We are totally OK dining alone! We don’t need a hug because we decide to go out for dinner —*gasp!*—ALONE!
Carry on and be kind to one another. We’re all in this crazy world together.
~ Christina